For days, I've been obsessing a little about buying stuff for our future kids, getting the house in order (we need to put a fence around the pool and finish trim in the bedrooms), and some weird urges to just gut everything out of the rooms so they can really get cleaned. Now, I am not a clean freak by any means, lord knows. So these constant, almost obsessive, urges caught me off guard. Like what is wrong with me?? Why am I this crazy person? The only conclusion I have come to is that I must be nesting.
Now, I didn't really know how nesting worked for adoptive parents. I think I was just always under the assumption that it was more for pregnant women like some hormonal thing. I mean, surely even though I was adopting I would want to get my house in order and get things ready for our kids, which I guess you could call nesting, but I really didn't know it would effect me on this level. Seriously, this week it has just taken over my life. Any and all of my down time has been focused on this and anything to do with it.
For months, years too, the adoption just feels as though its never going to happen. Like it's in the far off distance somewhere. We know it's coming and it will happen, but it never felt real. Until lately. Somehow, someway I just got this feeling like oh boy you better ready because it could happen anytime. And it could. It could be next week. It could still be months from now. We have no control over it. And if it is still months from now, I feel sorry for my hubby and the crazy lady he has to put up with until then.
Now, the only problem is that since we don't know the ages, gender, or if we will have one or multiples it is extremely hard to buy things in advance. Our adoption criteria is siblings under 4 years old. So we can't buy a crib yet unless we know we even need one or maybe two. We have two twin beds already though. We can't buy clothing, bottles, or most toys until we know what ages they are. So it's so hard. Yesterday however, I did go a little overboard buying children's books. One of my very best friends told me the best places to buy children's books were at second hand stores because not only are they cheap but there were lots in excellent condition. So off I went. I was like a madwoman on a mission. I hit a few stores and stocked up on books. These books were in pristine condition as well! That was the only thing I could think of that would cover all the bases of age and gender. Children's books.
I also called my mother and asked her if she would be willing to make a couple blankets for the kids because I want the blankets to be my first gift to them during the transition process (when they are still living at the foster home, but we are visiting daily.) That way they can sleep with them at night. I read somewhere that it was good for adoptive parents to sleep with the blanket you plan to give your child for a couple nights before you give it to them, that way the child becomes familiar with your scent. So that is something I want to do. Anything to make the transition easier for them. And bonus, the blanket will be made from their grandmother and it's something they can keep forever.
So my dear friends, if you have any suggestions at all of what I could do in advance please please feel free to tell me. I am all ears!
Here is a photo of my book collection so far. Side note : I bought 80% of them yesterday and only spent $16! What a steal! So at least now I have a small library for my future kids!
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